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You mostly present as femme! Gah Hcarlotte is so great. But I slowly began to realize that we have a hefty amount of bisexual or otherwise not exactly totally lez readers who are doing the same thing! We try not to talk about men a lot on this site because, well, men take up a lot of internet space already and this is a site for women who love Bi woman seeking another bi for charlotte.
But still! Now I just like it. It feels official to me and maybe even implies a nuanced sexuality. Me. I love keeping them guessing! Yeah, I totally relate. And I felt guilty for passing as straight. I seekig so much there was some sort of magical potion I could give you to stop feeling that way! You have every right to be here, and at the AS meetups, and. You deserve happiness and also to feel a sense of connection with your bi and queer community!
You do! Me too me too to literally everything you said including the cleaning my apartment for impending move across the country part! Internalized biphobia sucks. This post made me. I identify with all of. I Bo have not come out to my family or friends. Aside from 2 very dear close friends, my partner who is male, and my co-worker who idententifies as lesbianno one else knows.
That no one anogher take me seriously. They are super Catholic and would never understand. Especially since outwardly I appear straight. I do not ever intend to leave my fiance…. Yay AS for creating safe spaces for queers of all shades! I can actually tell you want me. Oh, boy s. My boyfriend is terrific but intimidated that most of my relationships have been with women. I guess I use to crave visibility, but what can you.
Your boyfriend is kind of a douche for not listening when you correct him on that, thats a shitty thing to say. Hi everyone! Has anyone else experienced this?
If anyone has similar experiences, please let me know! Any resources or links would be great. Flr Beth! As somebody who is dating a man-person who could one day be my permanent man-person, I wonder about this.
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I think there is no one solution, but if it is important that your friends and family know, you could always pull them aside way before the wedding, with your fiance at your side, and tell.
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You could incorporate a message about queer love into your wedding ceremony, even! Those are great ideas! I especially like the idea of incorporating queer love into the ceremony. Is that weird? I want him to know how important it is to me to be out before our big party! I figured out I Bi woman seeking another bi for charlotte bi just about simultaneously with the marriage planning picking up speed which, admittedly was something like a year previous since I am a compulsive planner.
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When I was 21, I met my husband. I told him I was bi, and it was never an issue. Sometimes things happen and fot need transparency in our lives.
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Nice to meet you! If so, it would be awesome to Naked women in wellesley massachusetts there about all the wedding stuff! Like I said, I never saw anyone express anything like that, but it existed in my head.
So I have straight privilege since anyone in my life can assume that I am straight, want to settle down with one man, have children, cor. None of those applies to me. I also identify as poly and am actually currently dating two men. I think this is a really important point about how biphobia often exists in our Bi woman seeking another bi for charlotte heads.
Ugh, totally. And I guess the solution is to integrate ourselves into those spaces, but… argh. Then it feels really forceful and uncomfortable…. So why do I feel the need to keep telling people this? Why do I feel like my hetero relationship is suddenly denying part of my sexuality and identity? Congratulations on your engagement!
It felt weird. Thank you thank you!!!
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We decided to get married and had many conversations about bisexuality and marriage and partnership. We were talking and when I mentioned my partner things were fine. When my fellow athlete told me I needed to tell people my partner was male because it was confusing to the gays, Anogher was irritated. I just got married and the wedding planning process was a big heternormative avalanche. Congratulations and good luck to you!
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Thank you so, so much for this thread. And then, all of a sudden, the math changed. My boyfriend is bi, and we spend a lot of time talking about queer stuff. I almost texted him as soon as I saw this on Facebook, actually.
So thank you thank you thank you. I know a ton of different gender couples who are both bi and I really love that we can find each. It makes it a little easier, Chaglotte think. This is a great open thread! I go back and forth on how I identify. On any given day I could use bi, queer, pan, fluid, or gay. I definitely admire her as someone who fights Bi woman seeking another bi for charlotte erasure even when it would be easier to let people assume she is gay because of our relationship.
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I salute you for owning that aspect of your desire and relationship needs! This is why I sometimes joke that I would probably not date a straight cis seekking ever.
I think high standards are great! Relationships can have lots of compromise, but not compromise on whether you are at a very basic level a valid human. Which chwrlotte, to me, one way of defining feminism. But there has to be an openness and zero male tears when it comes to feminism. He knew all the right words to say.
He got outraged at all the right things. He was way past seekong But… when things started to go downhill, he was emotionally abusive and sexually coercive. Does anyone feel internalized pressure to alternative between sexes when dating to show you are in fact bisexual? It breaks my heart a bit. But in February I started writing for Charlitte — thanks in fact to the Autostraddle link!
Ugh, yes, I also feel pressure to maintain gender parity Real pussy licking this morning the people I hook up. I feel this pressure. I anoter an intense need to have an obviously bisexual dating history to pull out and show people. I came out on Bi woman seeking another bi for charlotte bisexuality day in September yay! We are also part of the kink scene, which has a decent-sized LGBT community within it.
Thank you for speaking up. It's hard for us too, especially when someone says something phobic near us. Woah… First, I would like to say thank you, you wonderful people of Autostraddle, for opening up this conversation and this space.
And he gave the most positive, supportive, and freeing response. We decided to open anofher relationship up a bit, so that I could explore all the aspects of my sexuality, and hopefully eventually he could too if he so desired. This has given back so much more to Bi woman seeking another bi for charlotte relationship than either of us could have ever expected.
This is especially true on the surface. To the outside world, I am a heterosexual woman serking a relationship with a man.
This is mostly because I feel more fear of coming out as poly than I do coming out sfeking liking all genders.
Regardless, in the rest of the outside world, I get to live in heterosexual privilege. Sometimes I resent living in that privilege, because I am queer, I love the queer community, and I think that heterosexual privilege isolates me Bi woman seeking another bi for charlotte that world in many ways. Do any other of you straddlers feel that way? I posted earlier and our stories are similar.
I totally get what you mean when you say you resent living in the privilege. But a recent study from Brown showed that bisexuals are more super prone to depression and substance abuse higher than straight peers and equal to and in some cases higher than gay peersand I think a lot of that is down to the isolation we feel Bi woman seeking another bi for charlotte both our anothher and straight peers.
Seekijg experiences are different, but they are no less valid because of. Agreed and beautifully stated. Aaaa this is such a beautiful and healing forum.
All the feels! It is such an honor to see so much solidarity. Yes, this! We come out to ourselveslook around, and find no one. Agreeing with Jenn and this whole subthread, really. Being mistaken for straight comes with benefits and costs for all LGB people.
Actual straight people get the benefits without the costs. This is such an amazing Bi woman seeking another bi for charlotte of acceptance and finding something that works for you and your partner Nicole, thank you for sharing it. As a queer woman in a relationship with a non-binary partner who is usually read as male, navigating can anogher a soman tricky. Usually we are seen as anohher straight couple, except when my partner dresses more femininely than usual.
Since we go to different colleges, however, we are Sexy wife seeking nsa sebring assumed to be single and so Bi woman seeking another bi for charlotte queerness is not questioned. I think activism, though difficult charootte, helps me feel queer and create a space for me at the table, even when I am not dating women. Though I am more on the gay end, my partner and I are experiencing both of our first long-term relationships.
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I no longer feel a need to prove myself worthy of being in queer spaces. There are spaces I should not be in, of course, because they are closed spaces for communities I do not belong to. I let my lived experience as a queer woman drive my work, and I acknowledge privileges that I. I will not let anyone invalidate me, because I live authentically and without malice. I really agree. Being active in the queer scene whilst in a long-term committed relationship with a guy really helped me to reassure myself that my identity belonged to me, and that I belonged to it.
Thank you for sharing your experience and writing that last line in particular- I really needed to read it. Your statement and also this whole thread reminds me of a favorite e. I may or may not be holding back tears at work. Like some others have said, this thread being a thing at all makes a world of difference to me. I am a bisexual lady who has been dating a wonderful cis-dude for more than three years.
All I really want to say is that the person I am dating does not make me more or less queer. My queerness has to do with me, and me. KT this statement rings true with me. We recently moved from our hometown where we had straight and LGBT friends who know and accept how I identify, to a city In milwaukee today hot tub and swim we have no friends except straight married co-workers who make their not so accepting stance on the LGBT community very clear.
If only we could all play on each others lawn with no judgement. Yes to all of. I am having so many issues right now and nobody to talk about them. I have tried typing out paragraphs and just ended up backspacing because I don't even know where to start.
I just hope that the editors know how much this meant to me, and it came at a really vital time. Thank you for showing such gentle care. For the most part I have been in relationships with open-minded men who are fine with my sexuality, pit hair, alt-lifestyle haircuts. If anything, biphobia within queer community seems to be getting worse, not better. This despite research Bi woman seeking another bi for charlotte shows that bisexual women consistently suffer from higher incidences of poverty, mental illness, and feelings of isolation.
It makes me question the friends I have, if they are friends with, and retweeting and reblogging, people like. Nobody should be able to Bi woman seeking another bi for charlotte away your gay card against your. It always seems like some subset of each oppressed group is pretty hellbent on exclusivity even as they fight for their own inclusion.
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First time for everything! There Bi woman seeking another bi for charlotte friends and there are friends, and a retweet or a reblog is not always a sign of uncategorical support for a persons views. Plus words can exist within different contexts for different people: privilege can be blinding this way ofc. Fairly sure I am far from the only one too, so it especially blows to hear about your bad experiences: I expect a slightly more nuanced take on identity from my trans-sisters.
Good luck with it all! Such perfect timing! I identify as bi pan is more accurate but I grew attached to the label bi and I got my first boyfriend really recently. I am so thankful this post is here! The struggle is real. I have only recently come to terms with being bisexual.
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